Are women over unfriendly?

Yes. I hate to be the one to break it to you but yes they/you are, most of them/you are. Don't draw a picture of a chauvinist, women hating, multiply dumped, frustrated software guy, living alone with his pet dog who swears to never marry and learn cooking. I am none of these, except the software guy part (to which I will just say, generalization is a sin). I completely understand the need for a woman to be careful, cause lets face it there are desperate men out there who take so much so as a random look to be a sign for 'phas gai! yay!'.

I understand it, but I have to say women overdo it. They just do it several times over. For instance the other day, this new guy in our company bus asked this lady about the timings of the buses to his place, route details, drivers phone number, number of stops, alternate buses, drivers' managers number and he also asked something that sounded like 'what if I miss all the buses'. Stupid set of questions I agree, more so because they were all asked together and a somewhat non helpful answer that ended with a full stop communication punctuation was expected, but the response was a virtual middle finger and abject rejection of his proposal to marry him that was somehow encrypted in all those questions. The thing I didn't like about the whole incident is why the outright rejection of the thought that the guy was just stupid? Why was he being treated like a womanizer when all he wanted was a fool proof travel plan?


May be women can put up that 'id much rather go and marry a bulldog than go out with you' look on their face, on a case by case basis? Trust me, not everyone who tries to talk to you is hitting on you or wants to take you out or has enough money to take you out or is stupid enough to choose going out with you against watching the first five overs of a t20. It might be difficult to believe and all but men DO like other things and DO have other interests and at times DO find themselves in a situation that demands them to open their mouth and utter a sentence or two in a swearwordless language to a woman. Uncomfortable as it may be for them, they just have to do it because nobody from the same gender or having some part of the same gender is there around them at that particular moment of time. Least you could do for a fellow human being (yes men are your fellow human beings) is ask yourself once whether he actually needs the information he is seeking or did that question come from '100 indirect ways to get a girls phone number By anonymous'.


Really 'can you please watch my bag for a sec' is not a guy asking you out, its a guy asking you to watch his bag while he goes out to get a pen to fill out his reservation form. Its okay, just say 'No I have to go somewhere' if you dont want to watch his boring bag but don't give him that look. That look that makes men feel they committed the greatest most sinister act of all times and are a disgrace to other men.


PS: the author has never hit on any woman indirectly and he wasn't staring at that girl in Massala on Sunday, he was just drooling at the tangdi kebab she was having.